Dilemma -- To help or not to

How weird and how defensive a person can become, esp the female.

This morning as I was walking to the bus stop en route to playing soccer with Jere & co, I came across a limping person. Initially I wasnt sure if it was a he or a she, I just noticed that the person in front of me was limping -- quite badly. Soon after, that person fell to the ground. I walked up & realised it was a she. I sensed something was amiss, so I offered to help & got her standing on her feet again.

I asked her:" Are you ok? You need help?"

She replied:" My leg very pain. I want to cross the road." She was weeping then.

I thought she could have gotten herself injured & before I made a police report, another pedestrian came up from behind & told me that she kena langa by a car & someone had called for an ambulance already.

But instead of waiting for help to come, she continued her tedious & painstaking drag towards the overhead bridge. I immediately followed up & suggested that she should take a seat instead. Before I could help her by her arm to let her sit down, she screamed at me.

"If you touch me I shout molest!" What? Why would I want to get flesh with you on the pretext of offering my help? Thats quite demeaning of my good intention. Then when the other passer-by heard this, he helped me by telling her that what we were doing were for her own good. What we got in return was: "I dun need your help!Mind your own business!" Then she continued climbing the stairs in pain.

I was in a dilemma, to insist on offering her my help because she looked seriously injured or to heed her "advice" to mind our own business. Eventually I made a decision to let her be since the ambulance will arrive soon. The ambulance came 5 mins later and I saw her sat on the last step of the bridge, perhaps given up liao.

Humans are really weird. This is the first time ever in my life that someone is accusing me of molest, when Im trying to help. How sad it is to know that a person can become this defensive especially when they are at their most vulnerable & needed most help. Though it didnt really spoil my mood for the day, this incident taught me a lesson to think twice before offering help to ladies, especially when certain form of body contact is inevitable, like holding the arm . I will never know when the finger will be pointed at me when i try to help. Perhaps help can come in other "safer" ways ba.

My advice to my dear brothers. Continue to help if you may, but help cautiously lest you fall into the disadvantage trap in the form of physical contact. "Guys touch girls = molest. Girls touch guys = guy is fortunate." This is the "fair" system that shrouded our society at large, for the guys has less rights to defend themselves, while the girls are usually the more protected lot. But I wonder how many guys were actually the real victims?